Nope, I didn’t quite fall off the face of the earth….

A you can tell I’ve not exactly been speedy with updates to my blog, but I was recently contacted by a writer for The Otago Daily Times for some commentary about the sensation that is 50 Shades of Grey.

Here’s a link to the full piece (also with comments made by Sarah Frantz) and an excerpt:

“It’s  been my experience that the stories that stick with a reader have a lot of plausibility to them – the human condition underpins even the most unusual sexual elements.

“While the sexual aspects of an erotic romance might well be beyond a reader’s sphere of experience, the emotions leading to and within that sexual moment are experienced at varying levels and degrees by all of us.

“So far, I’ve written in the erotic romance and erotica areas. One of my publishers, Ellora’s Cave, coined the term ‘romantica’, meaning that while the story contains explicit sexual content like erotica those encounters are wrapped up in a romantic storyline.

“In contrast, straight erotica [or erotic fiction] often has no romantic overtones at all and while I’ve very definitely enjoyed probably more than my fair share of ‘stroke stories’, I prefer to write romantic sex.”

Douglas, whose titles include Tea For Three and Husbands and Wives and Lovers, says she enjoys depicting the interplay, angst and tension a “hot” sexual relationship can provide.

Another part of the appeal lies in exploring sexual situations “I might not or would not act on”.

Yet are books such as Fifty Shades mere escapism?

Might they possess the potential to redefine sexual parameters within a relationship?

“I think erotic romance can spice up a relationship if the people involved are open to it,” Douglas says.

“I’ve had a number of readers, women and men – yes, men read romance, too – who’ve dropped me a line to say their partner very much appreciated their appreciation of a good erotic romance story. It doesn’t mean they go out and re-create scenes from a story, but they can definitely build on the emotional and sexual arousal it brings.

“If you read a story involving a sexual dynamic you’ve never known, or perhaps understood, it could well be the light-bulb moment you didn’t know you’d been waiting for – for both good or bad,” Douglas says.

“It could be as simple as the knowledge that you aren’t wrong for fantasising about asking your partner to spank you; or it could be the opposite, in that it promulgates a stereotype where power is unfairly held by one party.”

And some reviews…

Joyfully Reviewed by Jo

Confirmed lovers seek to find the “something” that will satisfy needs.  His Intimate Submission continues Lucy and Jason’s story from Curious Intimacies.   Jason and Lucy have no secrets with their sexual relationship, just understanding of the needs and what pleases each other.  But when Jason reveals his latest need, Lucy finds a way to give it to him while still pleasing herself. I truly love the honest and openness of Jason and Lucy’s relationship and the fact they work to make it stronger.  Their erotic discovery is both sensual and loving, even while trying to figure out the mechanics of this new loving.  I really enjoyed the fact that Shane makes a couple of appearances.  His Intimate Submission is sensual eroticism at its best with that sense of discovery.

And from RomanceReader at Seriously Reviewed:

Um, yeah, I want—want Jason, want Lucy, still want Shane. Okay I don’t want the enema but Jason loved it and this book is all about him. I absolutely adored Lucy and the lengths she was willing to go to in order to please Jason. Lucy crossed a few lines that initially made her uncomfortable. In doing so she understands that pleasing her man is incredibly erotic and damn is it ever erotic. In this story you get a very palatable taste of Fem Dom. Ms. Douglas brilliantly reveals the strength and promise of pleasure in submission. While some aspects aren’t typical in any book, including erotica, Ms. Douglas is still tasteful in her descriptions of bodily functions and enemas. Should they be in every book, egads no. but in this case, the elements just worked. As for the love and devotion of Jason and Lucy, they are the characters love stories are made of.

#RT09

So I said I’d twitter my experience of being a Reader at the eBook Author signing, Wednesday night at Romantic Times. If you were on twitter and following the #rt09 hash tag you got to read all about it in real time, but for those of you not twittering here’s the transcript of my tweets sent.

# ROAD TRIP!!!! #rt09 ( it does class as a roadtrip if I’m going solo, right?)

# 305 miles to Miami wooooo

# I4 now. Orlando is now closer than farther

# Orlando us having a beautiful day! Ikea here I come (for returns)

# @Winidapuh well I was waiting for the locals to chime in with ‘you’re going the wrong way!!

# Eerk opened door, tis hot out!!

# Arrived earlier than I thought I might l. Damn. Now what do I do until 4.30? #rt09

# Did I just see @SmartBitches wearing pink in the parking lot? #rt09 oh the first ‘star’ sighting.

# Going to go park myself in the foyer and figure out where the ebook author signing is and star search.. #rt09

# @angelajames LOL I was the crazy lady in the orange Element going where she shouldn’t @SmartBitches

# @angelajames smuggle me in behind the scenes… I can fake it #rt09

# Well there are lots of parking spaces here… Where ever here is. So hopefully I have found a space where I should be. We’ll see. #rt09

# @SirTristam stuff and things, that’s what ebook authors sign #rt09

# Think I went in the wrong door. Many people wearing tags, but I think I might have hit the right room for the signing.. #rt09

# Wonder if I can just hang here and wait? #rt09

# Promo alley looks interesting, lots of goodies from all sorts of authors #rt09

# Oohhh the Mr Romance photo section!!! Big cluster of men, 1 woman in the middle feeling the whoa!! #rt09

# If I sit just here I wonder who I might see? I’m just outside club rt by the look and my fingers itch to go do some looksies #rt09

# It’s a very eclectic group of people walking by. Well dressed, very casually dressed, some a little bit themed (corsets and the like) #rt09

# Romance readers make up every level of society, don’t they. #rt09

# Leather cowboy hats and denim! #rt09

# Oooh was that a tag with Brashear on it that just walked past with a metric tonne of swag? #rt09

# @katiebabs blue shirts and denim look for the photos. Saw some skin … Only it was in the form of sunburned slighty pudgy late teens

# @avidbookreader I was just wondering if I can photograph promo alley #rt09

# Samhain swag walking past!!! #rt09 I will go attempt to photo…

# Beth williamson swag #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sdwu

# Useful swag- highlighters and lighters kc sehlhorst? #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3se45

# @linneasinclair swag #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3se7f

# Sally mckenzie swag #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sebf

# Authors filing in for signing I think #rt09

# Samhain swag #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3seo3

# @jane_l I will obtain a jane photo for the tweeples! #rt09 l

# ARe interview station #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3seym

# Lacy Savage sighting #rt09

# So is the ebook expo just a wander in thing? I figured it would be like sat morn and be $5 entry?

# Oooh Piers Anthony is who the older gent is!!! Nice! #rt09

# Dakota Cassidy sighted! #rt09

# 4.45 and nothing open yet. What’s the hold up?? #rt09

# Ooh something kinky with the download codes #rt09

# La banks and kwitney behind the crush #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3shdl

# authors authors everwhere! #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3shvw

# From the back #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3si3o

# Samantha Kane!! #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sih5

# @tinagerow here she is signing!! #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sih5

# @rainonroof I gushed and asked how she liked Tpigs latest piece on her work! #rt09 (re Sam Kane)

# Shayla Black #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sj1w

# Deidre knight #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sj7x

# Many many ec authors. Very many! The ec cover flats look lovely, very professional. #rt09

# I wonder if I can find Treva of LI? I have reports she is around. #rt09

# @TinaBurns running LSB table #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sjvw

# Said hello to Ralene Gorlinsky of EC. She was kind enough to give me the ec author gift even tho I’m not attending #rt09

# Found Barb Perfetti and Lori James and thanked them muchly for involving me in the @stanza promo #rt09

# Samhain bags #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sl6r

# Ah hah! An @jane_l in the wild! http://twitpic.com/3slb7

# And a @SmartBitches too #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3sle3

# Feeling kind of stalkery at the moment. But said hi to @SmartBitches Sarah. Nice to see her in person! #rt09

# Still no Treva. oh well can’t win them all.

# Chrissy Brashear was kind enough to try point her put to me though.

# Loreli James goodies #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3smg2

# Oh crap. The room goes dark then light then dark. Everyone is oohing and ahhing. It’s me leaning on the damn switch for the whole room #rt09

# EC party room for tonight #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3snoj

# Dare I sneak peek?? EC party #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3snrw

# Party room not a good pic I’m afraid #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3snzj

# @jane_l LOL you had your head in your phone twittering. Nice dress FYI!

# @jane_l plus I wasn’t signing but being a reader going squeeeeeee!!

# Bye bye #rt09 it was nice seeing you.

# Con center seemed nice (what I saw of It past the carlot I’m sittin in). Big and orange like most of Florida #rt09 http://twitpic.com/3souc

# @LorelieBrown seriously! Right? I hate those ‘snigger someones leaning on the switch SHIT!! It’s ME’ moments’ I guess I left my mark! #rt09

# Don’t think I saw many Samhain authors, but it was kinda a sea of EC so I prob missed some. A few Siren. A handful of LI #rt09

# @angelajames I’m envious… Will be food on road for me the party is over *sniff* #rt09

# LSb, Ec, Samhain, Redrose, total ebound, & tease publisher tables. No Loose Id, Sony, kindle or Ravenous Romance (I don’t think) #rt09

# Ack was hoping I’d miss rush hour but I’m not :(

# Just realised who else was missing Phaze. Saw them through the door at club rt but not at ebook fair… Wonder why? #rt09

# One couple there marketing kindle covers. #rt09 not sure if they had Sony reader covers or not… *cough* Mine are nicer though *cough*

# Bugger! Wrong St Augustine turn off which means going wrong direction for gas. Doh!

# Well. Home from #rt09 ebook signing. This has been one long arsed day. I think I twittered my fingers off. Hope it amused the tweeples…

# @laceysavage It was a walk by before the signing started. I’m never quite sure if I should act like a crazed fan and stop people or not :)

# @avidbookreader I wore my fingers to the bone! I think I need a new protector sheet for my phone, I wore this one out! :)

# Got to investigate bags this am. Door bag had 2 manga bks & I got 1other full bk. I want to say Tease pub ? (it’s not in my hand) #rt09

# Scored myself a ‘I’m a naked reader’ button on the way out (@sallymackenzie) now to find perfect venue to wear it! :) #rt09