Other than the eleventy-billion “remove comma” (sorry B) edits are moving along well on His Intimate Submission. No release date yet as we’re not quite finished, but cross fingers it might well be quite quick since edits are going so fast.
I’ve not written anything that’s had a direct link into BDSM before — assuming you associate all FemDom with BDSM that is. BDSM’s been something that I’ve felt a little uncomfortable jumping into the middle of, possibly because I have a different response than many when it comes to who should be on top — yes, the old Women-want-to-let-it-all-go-and-not-be-in-charge rubs me a little the wrong way — and frankly, I just don’t want to do it ‘wrong’ (of which there are many levels of, depending on the person).
Originally, His Intimate Submission was titled Subtle Domination. This picture from malesubmissionart.com is exactly the type of feeling I was going for. Submission has many facets, and simple and sweet was the side I wanted to portray. This image links to Male Submission Art - maymay gives wonderful, insightful commentary on what it means to be a male submissive, you should check it out!
I really, I mean really, wanted to write a story about a guy — a fairly straight guy — who wanted something different…and that different was to be the one taken charge of in the bedroom. Really, when I revised and finally hit on how to make the story work in Curious Intimacies Jason was written with wanting to tell this other story about him in mind (and Shane too, I’ve have an evil plan afoot for him). I didn’t want Jason’s story to be about the Top declaring him a true sub he just had to realise it, nor did I think Jason was at all into the whole pain side of things. So how to do it then?
It turned out in someways it was pretty simple as there’s this other thing that bugs me some about a number of BDSM romances – very few Dom/mes are ever inexperienced. They just seem to have sprouted up knowing how to wield a whip and paddle — but seriously, while you might be born with the need to be dominant, you aren’t born with some sort of implanted genetic history on how to go about kink. (This is a personal thing — I’ve a fondness for telling kiddo when he gives up on something after the first try that all the people who are really good at X got that why by practicing their arses off.)
So, I figured we’re (me and the characters) all new to the game lets just let it play out exactly like that — Lucy and Jason both have to feel their way into the next level of their relationship by discovering how to be what the other needs. And sometimes that’s fun and other times pretty freaking scary, and sometimes…pretty kinky even if it is kinda vanilla 🙂
So while His Intimate Submission isn’t full on BDSM since it just puts a toe or two in the water and swishes around a little to see how it feels (the same way your or I might to find out how it all fits), the strap-ons, dildos…and just a little bit of fetish involved means it’s not quite vanilla either.
Hrmmm. Marketing is going to be a real PITA on this one isn’t it… my Vanilla BDSM Fetish Beginner FemDom KindaBiGuy book…