87 from Mrs G

From Mrs Giggles review of His Intimate Submission:

First things first, yes, the naughty scenes are pretty good. What I like here is how well Ms Douglas manage to integrate the awkwardness felt by both characters as they try out various sex toys and all in a realistic manner without destroying the momentum or the heat level of those scenes. But what I also enjoy in this story is the insight offered by Ms Douglas into the psychology and dynamic behind the Domme and male submissive relationship. Now, I don’t know how authentic such details are as I’m not familiar with the scene, but I do find them convincing enough in my opinion. It is interesting to learn that being a Domme isn’t just about becoming Xenia Onatopp and punishing the submissive – the Domme also has needs, I learn, and the very act of punishing a submissive sometimes isn’t enough to satisfy those cravings. Ms Douglas goes beyond the stereotypical portrayal of BDSM typical of CSI episodes to introduce the emotional intimacy aspect of such a relationship, and I find the whole thing a most interesting read indeed.

Fun and educational – not bad at all, in my opinion.

While reviews might be for the readers, as the writer I’m feeling pretty happy right about now!

And just why does the second husband always die?

Like many of you I trundled along to see one of the big hits of 2009, 2012. (Yes, that does look odd written that way, doesn’t it). And since I’m a great fan of totally ridiculously impossible action-adventure stories featuring feats of magnificence no mere mortal has a hope of reproducing (aka we have no MacGuyver abilities whatsoever) I thought it was pretty good.

But I walked away from the movie with one big disappointment.

Why-oh-why did the nice, turned-out-to-be-quite-the-hero second husband have to die? It would have been rather refreshing to have a story where for once the poor second husband didn’t get gypped for taking on the first marriage baggage and making it work anyway.

Maybe I’m projecting too much reality into my movie watching desires, after all the amount of divorces that end up in a remarriage are rather slim. I would very much believe a ‘we’ve been able to become friends again’ scenario though.

Especially in 2012, as husband #2 might have been a little bit of a milquetoast safe-bet of a partner after the ups and downs of husband #1, but he stepped up to the plate when push came to shove to save the ones he loved (and some he didn’t). In fact, the story hinges on husband #2’s abilities to be able to fly a plane; yet die—and pretty dramatically—he does.

Do scriptwriters think it’s impossible for viewers to expand their view to encompass an ending where marriage #2 is a winner? Do they think all divorced people are secretly still moping over partner #1?

And why is this the polar reverse to Romanceland?

In Romances it’s traditionally the other way around. The first husband dies (sometimes of a banal reason like she was married off to an old codger and his heart gave out; others because they deserved it for their violent behaviour/actions) leaving the floor clear for that first young love to come back and take his rightful place. It’s not a commonly found story where the heroine was quite happy with marriage #1 and looks back with fondness, love and heartache at having lost their first husband.

Movies often have marriage #2 only exist until partner #1 pulls their head out of their arse, Romance has #1 existing only as a placeholder (and giver of angst/drama) until husband #2 comes along to save the day. I wonder why such different points of view about marriage (and subsequent divorce) #1 from movies to romance reading?

Acronyms Ahoy!

The husband told me that 2010 would be the year I’d have to move from being a S/WAHM back to a WOHM, unless I had a book hidden away that came with a ‘very nice deal’ advance attached to it. Alas, that ‘very nice deal’ wasn’t even a sparkle in this authors eye, so it was looking for jobs for me.

Frankly, I’d not thought to find something as fast as I did – I sent out a resume on Monday, heard from an employer Wednesday, and by Friday I had a job offer in hand. It seems I was just the right person in the right place at the right time, WAHOO! Well, wahoo kinda…

I’d worked right trough my 99/00 pregnancy, then after a few months off had gone back to work again, but then in Sept 2001 we came to the USA. While my husband had a valid visa for work, I didn’t so I became an enforced SAHM. And that way I stayed until Jan 2010. Eight long years out of the workforce, so it was a little nerve wracking to know that in just two days I’d be back amongst the working again.

That first half a week? OMG what a killer – I was in bed and deep asleep by 9pm each night. Last week at least I managed to get all the way through Castle on Monday and Fringe on Thursday 🙂 Forget about housework… and writing.

This week though I have grand plans of being a together and with-it WOHM. At least an hour each night dedicated to writing – more if I’m not having to prop my eyes open with toothpicks.

It sounds sad to say it, but it’s taking some work to get back to being a normal working person – you know the one that doesn’t fall face first into her bed when she gets home, but first makes dinner, catches a tv show, does some craft/oddjobs (in my instance, filling orders from Anne’s Addictions), and puts some time in on her hobby before heading for some well earned zzz.

I used to be able to, hopefully it won’t take too much longer to get back into the habit ’cause I’ve got stories to get written!

(PS. For the acronym impaired: SAHM – stay at home mother, WAHM – work at home mother, WOHM work out of home mother)

(PPS. I’m back working in an Optometry Practice – oh my, how insurance makes things sooo different)

(PPPS. Nice deal $1 – $49,000, very nice deal $50,000 – $99,000, good deal $100,000 – $250,000, significant deal $251,000 – $499,000, major deal $500,000 and up)

Come hear me… & some changes afoot…

This Sunday (Jan 10th) I’ll be a guest on Kink on Tap, a once weekly talkshow/podcast run by MayMay and Emma.

Remember me telling you about the wonderful website May runs, MaleSubmissionArt.com? Well, one of May’s other works is Kink for All (unconferences designed to speak openly, frankly and positively about all types of sexuality) and part of that again is Kink on Tap. Male Submission Art supplied me with many of the images that were used as inspiration for His Intimate Submission. May picked up on some of those link backs and commented here, and from there invited me to talk about being an author wanting to write about male submission in a positive and romantic light (well sort of, HIS is erotica after all 🙂 ).

So that’s where you’ll find me from about 7.30est tomorrow night – though the show doesn’t officially start until 8pm est. Please do come along and participate in the chat room, the topics will be wide and varied that’s for sure (you can see some of the things tagged for possible discussion on Kink on Tap’s delicious feed). You never know who might be there, and frankly there are some interesting folks, with some interesting kinks that have all sorts of relevant things to say. (Jury’s still out on if I will be at all interesting or relevant 🙂 )

Now, those changes… Seems I’ve gone and gotten myself a job. More details to come once it’s all official.

Totally off topic…

Has anyone by chance run across any papers/works/blogs relating corsetry of say 1600-1900 to enforced chastity/sexual repression of women and possibly linked to puritanical views of the church re women and sex?

Just a touch out there, no? But the mind takes you in strange directions at times 🙂